If you have a fear of speaking up, you're not alone. Studies show
that 85% of people are more afraid of speaking in public than they are
of death. Wow! That's a huge fear. So you're a fairly typical person if
the thought of speaking makes you anxious.
However, the
consequences for you if you're not speaking up are NOT typical. You're a
business owner. So you need to be heard. It's critical that you get the
word out calmly and clearly about what you do.
Staying Small
A
decision to resign yourself to speaking anxiety is a choice to stay
small in your business. It's that simple. Because it's socially
acceptable to have performance anxiety, so it can be an easy way to
hide. I know because I've done it myself. Yes - it's embarrassing, but
it's true.
While coaching other people to speak up so they could
grow their businesses, I found lots of reasons to avoid doing some
things involving speaking because of my own fears. On the surface, they
looked like performance fears. But digging a little deeper, I uncovered
the truth.
My real fear was about what could happen if I expanded
my business. As long as I didn't address my own particular speaking
fears, I didn't have to know that, did I? It was a safe way to stay
small.
What Are You Missing Out On?
Are you
doing the same thing? If you've decided this is just part of your DNA
so you're not going to address your anxieties about speaking, here are
some of the business opportunities you're turning down:
- doing group coaching
- creating videos
- creating audios
- making radio appearances
- doing your own teleseminars
- presenting workshops
- giving free and paid talks
- networking effectively
- being taken seriously by other professionals
- speaking calmly to those with more authority or visibility
Take A Closer Look
Do yourself a
favor and take a peek behind that fear of speaking. Is it just a reason
you use to avoid a bigger fear? Maybe some version of fear of success?
Fear of being overwhelmed with too much work? Of not being able to
maintain a new level of production? Something else?
It's not
always pretty, but the truth really will set you free. It gives you have
a solid, specific place to start from. There are solutions to all these
concerns.
Sometimes, just dealing with your core fear will make
your speaking discomfort disappear! It was just an illusion after all - a
camouflage for something else. And sometimes you need some outside help
with those speaking fears so you can jump on all those business
opportunities.
Take whichever path will work for you, but do yourself and your business a favor and eliminate that anxiety.